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AlleyBaggett · Official Model Joined: 15 Dec 2003 Posts: 2358

HI guys,
I'm starting this thread so that you can ask me for any advice you need on anything. If you want help on how to approach a woman....how to ask a woman out...romantic ideas...sexy ideas...why women are the way they are....and more! I'm all ears! I will do my best to give you my opinion on whatever questions you might have. Think of this tread as a.....Dear Abbey.....only it's Dear Alley.

P.S. Hi guys....can you make sure to send me questions that are of a non-hardcore nature. Thanks!
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orange · Rank: Senior Member Joined: 02 Feb 2005 Posts: 291

mbeal78 · Rank: Senior Member Joined: 06 Mar 2005 Posts: 266

Sorry Alley

jelly · Rank: Rookie Joined: 18 May 2005 Posts: 50

Ha ha a "dear Alley" - great idea for a topic!

Yeah I would love to know how to approach a girl and start a conversation - tell me everything!! Some girls can be really mean when I'm just being nice, why do single girls go to pubs & clubs then dis every guy??
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AlleyBaggett · Official Model Joined: 15 Dec 2003 Posts: 2358

Hi guys,

I've just posted up a P.S. Please make sure you read it.

This isn't Dannis hard drive so let's please ask some good clean legit questions.

I'll answer some of your posts tonight!

LOTS OF LOVE!!
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Wildcard · Rank: Super Veteran Joined: 16 Jul 2004 Posts: 2133

Supermark · Rank: Senior Member Joined: 02 Feb 2005 Posts: 155

That's a good one, Wildcard! Cool

Danie · Rank: Junior Member Joined: 02 Feb 2005 Posts: 115

I tell you what, Wildcard, I am not bragging one bit but it doesn't matter if you are good looking or not. 99% of single women want to be stomped on and controlled. Lots of women are attracted to me because of my so called good looks and powerful position, but when they find out I am a nice guy it's over.

There is good women left in this world, your just have to be lucky.

I was lucky for awhile.

Danie
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AlleyBaggett · Official Model Joined: 15 Dec 2003 Posts: 2358

Orange, this is a very good question.

I believe that IF you are speaking of TRUE LOVE....one that NEVER dies....one that is unconditional...then you don't have to act or work to keep. You WILL ALWAYS have LOVE between eachother till the VERY end. I also believe however, that....because we do live in this world that we live in today...we should always try our best to maintain it (no matter X amount of years have passed) because it shows that you care. I also believe that some people's love probably is only a chemical reaction...and therefor needs to be worked on on a more consistant basis.
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Spookie · Rank: Casual Joined: 02 Feb 2005 Posts: 46

Chemical Raction? You mean like Lust, or in the moment type of thing?

AlleyBaggett · Official Model Joined: 15 Dec 2003 Posts: 2358

Hi Jelly,

For some single women...they go to clubs and diss every guy....because it makes them feel better about themselves if they do. Most of them probably would never get that much attention outside of a club...so by them doing this....it makes them feel as if they are "wanted" and it makes them feel better about themselves if they have the power to turn everyone down. For some other women...they just don't like to feel like guys are "hitting" on them. A simple Hello these days could mean....a guy is hitting on you.

Instead of saying hi...or saying anything else: try dancing next to the girl..and act as if you are SOOOO much fun to be with and as if you are having soooo much fun too. You might want to try doing a few playful hip bumps on her hips...going sideways (NOTHING SEXUAL AT ALL!!!!) If you don't get a phone number then at LEAST you'll hopefully have this girl dance with you....and have a good time. DON'T ever ask the girl for her phone number. If she's interested, she'll offer to give you her's. Asking will only make you sound like your desperate...and after something. Another way to approach her is by being funny...laughing alot with your friends next to her. Don't be a rude funny...but a silly funny. Girls LOVE guys who can make them laugh...and most girls love to dance. OF COURSE, if a woman is giving you the "eyes" and seems to be into you...then feel free to make your move. Ask for her number and such, who knows...it could be your lucky night. Wink

Oh may I suggest that perhaps you are looking for the right girl in the wrong places. You will NOT find a quality relationship in a club or pub. It is very RARE that a good lasting relationship comes from these kinds of places. GOOD LUCK!
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AlleyBaggett · Official Model Joined: 15 Dec 2003 Posts: 2358

Hello Wildcard,

It sounds like those are the kind of women that you should stay away from...and not be bothered by them. Those women were probably emotionally abused by their dads....and that's why they crave for this kind of attention or reaction from men. Trust me, you do not want this kind of woman in your life. Some women...also want the "COMPLETE package." These women who are looking for the complete package will probably up single or unhappy for a very very long time or perhaps their entire lives. What these women don't realize is that men are not objects and their good and bad qualities shouldn't be checked off like a shopping list. If you find that certain women are like that with you....run the other way...YOU DO NOT want those types of women anyway. If they are that shallow....then you would not mesh with her personality anyway....which is what you're saying that's one of the really good things about yourself. Don't sweat it! Don't worry. There are still some good hearted NICE women out there as well. What is more powerful and beautiful than any kind of good looks is the inner connection you get when you stare into someone's eyes. The feeling you get from that will transform your woman into your dream woman. BELIEVE IT OR NOT. Very Happy

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AlleyBaggett · Official Model Joined: 15 Dec 2003 Posts: 2358

Both Spookie.
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mbeal78 · Rank: Senior Member Joined: 06 Mar 2005 Posts: 266

Hey Alley,...

Sorry if you were offended or something by my question. I apologize but you did say ask anything I thought. I just find some questions on the message board to be a bit boring.

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mike

mbeal78 · Rank: Senior Member Joined: 06 Mar 2005 Posts: 266

Sorry Alley,...

Didn't see that P.S. Embarassed

Maybe I'll come up with a better suited question.

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mike

mbeal78 · Rank: Senior Member Joined: 06 Mar 2005 Posts: 266

Hey Alley,...

Legit question ok. I just went out with this girl for the first time Tuesday. Now here's the deal. I'm older than her but she's got more experience than I do. Now I like her and all. But she was talking about how some guys she's been with she breaks up with them after their first time together. This puts a big amount of mental pressure on me. So say if I do get intimate. And after the fact she wants to breakup. I'm going to feel like another one bites the dust. I don't want to have to feel I have to be like a superstar in there you know. It's like your pitching in a big game and the coach tells you if you give up a run your fired? What do you think.

Another thing. I can't stand it most of the ladies I meet want me to come see them or call them. And when I dig deeper it turns out they always have b/f's.

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tasm · Rank: Casual Joined: 19 Mar 2005 Posts: 10

Hey alley,if a person is a virgin and into their 20s, do you think they should go find a partner to simply "get laid" to experience sex,or should they wait for the right person that they have an emotional connection with?

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mt · Rank: Veteran Joined: 02 Feb 2005 Posts: 989

So if clubs are the wrong place to find your better half, where is a good place to find a companion?
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jelly · Rank: Rookie Joined: 18 May 2005 Posts: 50

Thanks for the advice Alley! It all makes sense Smile

To be honest I never thought I'd find anyone special in a pub or club, but I don't know anywhere else to meet girls, any suggestions?
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dickmoyer · Rank: Junior Member Joined: 23 Feb 2005 Posts: 145

Dear Alley,
There is this girl at work, a bit younger than me, but she is my dreamgirl, everything I have ever wanted in a woman. How do I approach her and ask her for a date without overstepping my boundaries as pertains to office romances. Oh we say hi and chat at times but I am terrifed at asking her for a date. Any help would be great
Dick

dally · Rank: Junior Member Joined: 08 Feb 2005 Posts: 141

Alley your advice to Wildcard and Jelly is great, it's invaluable to us single guys. The love game is very competitive and ones game has to be up to scratch to compete. I want to thank you for the inside info. Very Happy

I want to ask you about body language. Have you ever noticed in other women any subtle body language that told you that she was interested in a particular guy? For example I know if a women emphasizes her neck by touching it or even pulling her hair up to expose it when Im talking to her she has some interest in me at this point. Can you help us with any others?

orange · Rank: Senior Member Joined: 02 Feb 2005 Posts: 291

This post to say that the approach described by Alley is the best way to catch the interest of a girl (dancing near, game of eyes and smile, to be funny,...)! I really works! I always act like this! Of course, sometimes, it doesn't work because of many things (we can't like each other unfortunately)! But if there is a possibility, as little that this one could be, this way will make you go to have a good contact with her!
Good luck to everyone! Wink

AlleyBaggett · Official Model Joined: 15 Dec 2003 Posts: 2358

MBeal...It sounds like this girl is expecting you to be a SUPERSTAR in bed! or else she wouldn't have mentioned the fact that she breaks up with guys after their first time being together. I think you are going to have to get VERY creative with her!! and try to get her to have several BIG O's or else....she might just never call again. She sounds like a freak to me.... Maybe this is the kind of girl you want?? Another question: aren't you marriend??? or am I thinking of someone else??

Tasm: I would wait till you find the right person and have an emotional connection with BUT you have to MAKE sure you DO NOT becomed obsessed with this person you do finally have sex with. You might say...oh...I won't be obsessed but It usually does happen. You'll end up following this girl around like a puppy dog...and that's not good. I think If you can treat this relationship with some respect....and treat her as a friend as well..then you will go really far. Virgins are SO special...and rare these days. I think it's a VERY VERY GOOD THING! Very Happy

Wildcard: I think the work place is just fine. After having such a hectic day at work...or dealing with some jerk...if she were to all of a sudden hear from someone that they would like to take her out for some R&R & dinner.....She's more likely to say YEAH....I'M THERE!

MT: Any place BUT clubs and pubs. The best way to find your better half....is by becoming friends with females that you are attracted to first.....then once you've gotten to know eachother better...you then can move forward and either they will stay your friends or they will become yours. If I you ask me....I don't think either one of those is bad. If you go this route to find your better half.....trust me....your relationship will be a long lasting one....because you will always have that friendship as a foundation for your intimate relationship and it will flourish.

Jelly: Blind dates are the worse...usually. The best places to meet women are the gym, library, grocery store, park, through friends, work and etc.

Dickmoyer: First, you have to stop. Do not go into this thinking this girl is your dream girl. HUGE mistake. When you do go out on a date with her....if you think she's your dreamgirl....then more than likely you will act nervous, shake, maybe spill something, sweat, stutter and leave a weird bad first impression. Okay. Let's get real here. I'm sure you don't know EVERYTHING about this person...yet. So what if you go out on a date with her and you find out that there are lots of things that make you think otherwise. Also, if you go into this thinking she's your dreamgirl....then you'll have HUGE expectations of her. Once you get to know her she might let you down but in reality she's perfectly normal and it's just you who had these HUGE superficial expectations and you might just loose out on a really neat girl. The possibility is there....so relax. This girl maybe hot and nice...yes...but that is still far from a DREAMGIRL. When you do go out on a date with her you should just try to be relaxed as you can be...and remember that NO ONE is perfect. Be yourself....and don't try to hard to impress her.
Anyway, Before you ask her out make sure it's okay with the office rules..or else you could be terminated. ** I would approach her at the end of the day...and say something like...I was wondering if you would like to come to a bar-b-que with me...no strings attached. Or you could say....I was wondering if sometime this week you would like to go have dinner after work? OR would you like to go to the ART museum this weekend? Don't mention cocktails unless she does first. I think something innocent like that....should be the first date. If you are TOO shy to ask her out...then write it down on a piece of plain paper and make a paper plane out of it...to make her laugh....and leave it on her desk. Don't forget to write your name on it..and if you have bad writting get someone else to write it for you. GOOD LUCK!

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mbeal78 · Rank: Senior Member Joined: 06 Mar 2005 Posts: 266

Hey Alley,....

No,..I'm not married. I sent you a pic a long time ago with me and an old girlfriend maybe? You may not believe it Alley but I'm a old fashion type of guy. Sure I've slept with a girl on the first date. But I wanted to hold back on this girl. Chances are she maybe moving away and I wanted to see what she was all about. Sometimes it's good to leave them wanting more to keep them interested. Yeah,..I don't think I've ever dated a girl that's talked about sex this much. Alot is different times she's did guys. I called her a horny little girl. Plus she does have large boobs. She talks about quite a bit cus she had the done. They're really big,..bigger than your natural ones. I guess she wants me to ask to see them. I think the reason she got interested in me was she heard I had a bad boy rep?

One more thing,...I only want to marry you Alley. Personally I would try my best to make you orgasm as much as possible. I wouldn't care about myself I would love to see your face and hear you get off. Embarassed

About my performance. Woman tell me I'm really good in bed. Big hands,..tall,..size 15's. I've never had a problem in that area. What do you mean try alot of stuff? What position is the best to get a girl a orgasm? Which is most affective for you?

Thanks again Alley!!! Your advice is golden and I appreciate it.

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mike

jelly · Rank: Rookie Joined: 18 May 2005 Posts: 50

I used to do that dreamgirl thing a lot, it really screws things up. It makes me look really needy, but I'm just overreacting. I try not to get infatuated with a girl so fast but it's tough sometimes! Smile

One thing that helps is to remember that you always forget about the last dreamgirl when the next one comes along... so maybe they are just ordinary.....

Yeah Alley, your advice is pure gold! I think I'll give up trying to meet girls in pubs, it seems to come off as if I'm desperate. I'll just be myself and be patient, and try not to get too frustrated looking at your pics!! Laughing

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AlleyBaggett · Official Model Joined: 15 Dec 2003 Posts: 2358

Mbeal:

The best position for me is: doggy with an extra vibration underneath at the same time. That is AMAZING! Every woman is different so, maybe she prefers a different position. It sounds...like....you can speak frankly with her about her favorite position during sex.....and go with it. Oh...don't forget to add the extra vibration. Women LOVE THAT!! especially at the same time! big grin

Jelly: I really think that's the best thing you can do!! I know you'll succeed.
My pics will be here for you in the mean time...to keep you busy. Wink

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mbeal78 · Rank: Senior Member Joined: 06 Mar 2005 Posts: 266

Hey Alley,...

Doggy style happens to be my favorite position to take a girl. When you say extra vibration to me hand stimulation. Rubbing her clit while your pumping it? Is that what you like? Or are you referring to a vibrator. In you opinion is doggy best to give orgasms? Have you got a majority of your big O's from being fucked doggy style. I hear somewhere that it's the best position because of the angle of the cock into the vagina. The stimulation and hitting the G-spot is a greater possibility. How about hair pulling. And grabbing her boobs during the doggystyle? Do you think using your fingers during doggystyle sex or any other position is good? This is awesome thanks for helping me out Alley!!! I love you.

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rufus · Rank: Rookie Joined: 02 Feb 2005 Posts: 72

Hi Alley,

Well, you remember a few years ago when I had just had a big miserable break-up develop with a certain young lady and you invited me to meet you at Glamourcon and be good to myself?

I have been carrying this eternal flame in my heart for that woman, but thought there was no way ever she'd wanna have anything to do with me again. Then a few weeks ago, I got an e-mail notice from some chat/singles site she evidently belongs to and it was a request for updated information from me. Now, I know it was a scripted thing that essentially just mined her hotmail address book, but, none the less, I was surprised I'd still even be in her address book. In addition, I went to the site to see how the update bit worked, and discovered she would have had to select people to have the request for updated info sent to. Meaning, she specifically wanted to now my where-abouts.

So, I sent my info. Haven't heard anything else, but I've had my curiosity piqued. What do you think, should I try to make more contact again? I guess I have some reluctance because in the original relationship I'd had that sort of a "dream-girl" feeling about her, but - well maybe a bit different to what that traditionally means. I'd felt we'd had a sort of mystical connection of some sort and that we'd somehow met up with each other as an inevitable destiny, each from half-way around the world through an incredible set of circumstances that had spanned nearly 20 years. I heard from her brother after we'd broken up and gone our separate ways that the whole experience had become frightening for her because of some of the coincidences and parallel paths our lives had followed over those years and all.

I guess she was freaked out by the intensity of the conenction or something like that. I must admit, it was a bit freaky for me too, but now I have a more relaxed, matter-of-fact attitude about it. I see that all in the context of the past life almost. I wonder if maybe she has changed a bit in her attitude too?

Anyhow, I thought I'd just send a "Hi, I got that update message from you and was wondering what you've been doing" note. What do you think might be going on in her head?
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